Talking to Children

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN

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Old Language
You’re so lazy. You never do your chores.
New Language
You’re very good at remembering, generally, but it, sometimes, seems hard for you remember your chores. Let’s figure it out.

Old Language
You’re so mean. You’re always yelling at your little sister. What a bully you are!
New Language
I notice that you seem angry at your little sister. There must be reasons. Can you tell me why.

Old Language
Shut up and stop complaining or I’ll give you something to complain about.
New Language
I hear that you’re unhappy and disappointed. Let’s talk about it.

Old Language
You broke the curfew twice in a row. You think you’re a big shot and can do anything you want. Well, mister, you’re grounded for 2 weeks.
New Language
I’m confused about what’s been happening. Did we not agree on a 12:00 o’clock curfew?

Old Language
I’m tired and I have a headache and you’re bothering the hell out of me. You’re always so selfish.
New Language
I’m not feeling well right now. Could we table this until tonight?